Crown Thieves

Beware! Crown Thieves are everywhere! They are the people and situations in your life that are determined to steal your invisible crown.  They are also the people in your life that are knowingly or unknowingly tipping your crown to the side by their actions.

What’s an invisible crown you ask?

Well let me break it down like this:

You were born into royalty whether you believe it or not.

Royalty = human race.

At birth you were given this invisible crown.

Your Life = Your invisible crown.

Have I lost you?

OK, for those that are still with me, let me explain my definition of a crown thief.

The first definition that come to mind for me, is the devil, himself!  He is all things evil and his goal is to basically ruin your life! And if he gets what he wants, he will take it altogether!

Next in line, are the people we can’t stand. Simply put, the haters.  Or even worse, the people we love.  Sad but true.

These are the people in your life that hate to see you succeed in anything.  People who seem to have something negative to say about ANYTHING positive in your life!  The ones who are so stuck on their own ego that they can’t even see past the tips of their own noses! People who have caused you to put up brick walls around your heart. The ones who have you wondering if there are any good people left in the world  People who chose to lie until they don’t even remember the truth! The ones who have you explaining yourself till you’ve literally have high blood pressure, and are wracked with depression. Yep, you know…. People that smile in your face and then begin stabbing you in the back before your back is even halfway turned.

Crown Thieves are also the situations in life that have the power to break us down to our cores, if we don’t learn skills to help build up our armor.  For example:

  • The failed relationship in-between friends or loved ones.
  • That job that was given to the slacker instead of the hard worker
  • Drug and alcohol dependency
  • Mental illness or special needs.
What can we do to fight against Crown Thieves?

First come to terms with the fact that Crown Thieves are part of life. They come around to test our strength, and it is up to us to use whatever we have in our toolkit to fight them off.  Use tools like:

  • Prayer
  • Animals
  • Books
  • Friends
  • Family
  • Teachers
  • Therapy
  • Social Media

To share our thoughts and brainstorm with like-minded individuals. Hug or pet that animal that loves you regardless of what you go through. Love on that child or trusted family member that will be there for you even when your world feels like it’s falling apart. Share what you have learned with open-minded people who crave knowledge just as much as you do.

But most of all, remember that Crown Thieves may make your crown slip a little.  Crown Thieves  may even be playing tug-of-war in-between your crown and 2 hairs on your head.  But you DON’T have to give it up! Better yet, tell yourself you will NOT give it up! I won’t let you give up!  If I have to write a post – a week to convince you that you are powerful,  I will.  I am going to share with you what I am learning about myself, and pass it on the best way I can.  We are all in this together.

By the way. Above is a video of lyrics to a song I love.  Listen to if for a second, or sing along.  Whatever you do, just pay close attention to the lyrics.  Share with me your thoughts, then have a great day.

Talk to you later.

My Pain Another’s Inspiration

So, I just got home from one of my many appointments of the week – my Parenting Group.  The more I attend this group, the more I realize, my pain is another’s inspiration.

Before you get ready to disagree, give me a chance to explain.

For example, off and on in my life I’ve been deathly afraid of driving my car for many reasons. Most of those reasons are, “What If’s” like:

  • What if someone hits my car?
  • What if there is a drunk driver on the road?
  • What if there’s a racist cop on the road looking to make me an “example”
  • What if I encounter road rage?
  • What if my many worries overwhelm me during driving, and I run a red light?
  • What if I get a flat tire?

People, “What If’s” create worries, that can lead to uncontrolled anxiety. Uncontrolled anxiety can lead to seclusion and depression.  Something I struggle with, daily.  So, trust me, I know what I’m talking about!

I had no idea that my pain in dealing with my “What If’s” and my debilitating fear of driving, could be someone else’s inspiration. That is until, I spoke about it in my Parenting Group.

One of the topics today was to share something you were proud of this week.  I decided to share my fear of driving and how I have overcome it ( for the moment.)   I advised that what I call “required appointments”,  has force me to get out of the house. And the more got out of the house, the more driving became easier for me.

For example, a “required appointment” for me would be:

  • A meeting at my son’s school
  • Agreeing to have my son’s counseling sessions at the counseling center instead of at my home as they have been in the past.
  • Scheduling more frequent therapy sessions with my own therapist instead of the standard bi-monthly appointments.

The point I’m trying to make is because I have increased the amount of “required appointments” outside of my home, my requirement to drive increased.  So instead of anxiety about my driving “what if’s” I became obsessed with getting to these appointments on-time (something that is very important to me)

Today I realized how proud of myself I was for making it over this hurdle called – driving. But I also realized I am capable of positive change.  Even if it is temporary.   I also learned  change is inspiring. Not only to me, but to others, Which, I found out after the feedback from other’s in the Parenting Group.

Other’s in the group expressed feelings of hope.  That it is possible to change the worst of our own feelings and actions.  Also, that there really is a bright light at the end of the tunnel!

As people, we crave acknowledgement whether we realize it or not.  The fact that I now know my pain is another’s inspiration is invigorating! I walked out of today’s Parenting Group feeling like my pain is part of my purpose here on earth.  I was proud of even sharing my fear of driving in the first place! But, to know that others had compassion for me and  found the outcome inspiring, was truly special.

I hope my story can inspire you as well.  Please remember you are not alone in your difficulties.  Please try not to be so hard on yourself today and remember whatever pain you are experiencing will inspire others later.

Have a great day!

 

New Season Means New Photos

Now that the new season is upon us, it’s time to start thinking about getting those new photos ready!  Are you a local entrepreneur, blogger, or youtuber, in need of new photos for your business, blog, or YouTube Channel? Do you need new photos to pass out to family members during the upcoming holiday season?  Are you seriously ready to get your glam started, but don’t want boring, cookie-cutter, mall photos?  Well I know the perfect photographer for you!
No, you don’t have to fly to New York or Los Angeles just to get quality photos when we have our own Queen of Photography right here in the NW!

Check it Out!

I am happy to announce that Kariba Jack of Kariba Photography will be in the Portland/Metro area from October 24-27th.  She will be offering mini-photo sessions and head shots.  The head shot package will be  $100 for a total of  10 head shot images, and the mini-photo session package will be $200 for a total of  20 images.
 Kariba is a beautiful, social butterfly who not only owns and operates Kariba Photography, but is also a Naturalista, Philanthropist, and  the creator of the Seattle Naturals Extravaganza which I attended this past May 2017 If you are ready to laugh, in-between photos, contact Kariba at:  photos@karibaphotography.com or through her Facebook business page: Facebook.com/karibaphotography 
So no more procrastinating.  I was to see some amazing new photos people!

 

World Mental Health Day 2017

Today is World Mental Health Day 2017.  If you haven’t thought about the importance of your own mental health, or of others, today is the day to take time out and do so.

Many of us have seen that random person on the street talking to themselves or heard about the person who committed some act violence that is blamed on mental health issues.  Our society has a way of labeling people with mental health issues as “crazy”.  Well I am here to tell you our society has you brainwashed!

There are people with mental health issues that deliver your mail, serve your food, make your coffee, and even teach your kids.  Are you scared now?  Well you shouldn’t be, but you should be mindful, and I will tell you why.

What is Mental Health?

According to MentalHealth.gov

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. It affects how we think, feel, and act. It also helps determine how we handle stress, relate to others, and make choices.

So, what does this mean in terms of daily life?  I will use myself as an example.  The struggle with depression and anxiety is real in my life, on a daily basis. Most times I keep to myself, don’t get out and about much, crowds make me nervous,  I’m highly emotional, and will cry at random times. Due to this, I am regularly misunderstood.  Have you ever been misunderstood? It’s not a good feeling is it?

Now would you have known any of what I just shared from the many pictures I have floating about social media? Or the fact that I have this website, or have a YouTube Channel?  Of course not.  Mental Health doesn’t have a “Look” people.

When a good friend is not their normal, talkative self or is tearful, what do you normally do?  Well, you ask them are they ok, right?  Now, if you come across someone who appears to be sad or shy.  Have you thought to ask that person are they ok?  Or, have you thought to give that person a smile before you walk by?   Something as simple as a smile can make someone’s day.  It can be the reminder that they need that there are still good people in the world who care.

What Can You Do

Think about your life. Do you feel like you need a vacation, everyday?  Do you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulder at work and at home?  Have you gained weight suddenly and you don’t know why?  Is it hard to sleep at night?  Then I am here to tell you your mental health is worthy of your attention.  Take 15 minutes to do something you love.  Something that makes you smile. Something that relaxes you.  Your mental health is important people.  This is why we are beginning to hear more and more about self-care.  Trust me, your mental health is something to not take for granted.  No one is immune from mental health difficulties so take care of yourself.

If you need resources/help on ways to improve your mental health, I urge you to pray, then talk to  a friend, teacher, counselor, pastor, your job’s human resources office or call 211 for information in your area.

Have a great World Mental Health Day people!