Keep Pushing Forward

When someone suggests to you to: keep pushing forward.  What do those words even mean and how can you tell if you’ve actually pushed forward?
When I suggest to others to keep pushing forward I have my own opinion of those  words and what it looks and feels like to me.  After reading this, you may or may not form your own opinion of what keep pushing forward means.  Please understand that each person’s definition is may be different, because it is based on your own individual life experiences. 
Keep Pushing Forward
Keep Pushing Forward
When I think of the words: keep pushing forward, I literally picture myself taking one foot and putting it in front of the other.  It may sound simple, but trust me it’s not. It’s an uphill battle.

Just like a baby has to learn how to crawl before it can walk.  You have to build up your strength to move towards  having an improved mindset.  You have to be willing admit there is hard work to be done, then reach out for tools to put in your toolkit, (I will talk about this more in later blog posts).  Your toolkit will grow based upon the positive messages you feed your brain daily. Then before you know it, you’re shattering your comfort zone shackles (for more on comfort zone shackles click here).

Today I got a Facebook notification that actually proved to me I capable of pushing forward in life.   Someones we may hear from others that they see the positive changes in you, but honestly that is not the norm (unless a therapist tells you).   Anyway,  I have just been made aware that  Facebook has a way of showing you your past through previous photos and videos.  This photo is proof that I needed to see with my own eye that change is possible.

I see a woman with so much sadness in her eyes. She is worn out physically and emotionally.   The words “Woe Is Me” is written all over her face. The only reason why she took this photo was to post her weekly “Wrap Wednesday Look” on Instagram. But did she really feel like taking that photo? NO! Had she just shed tears? Possibly. Did she think she was worthy of happiness? Maybe. Maybe Not. Is her life rough? Yes. But did she continue taking positive steps  to keep pushing forward in life? Yes she did.
So my message to you is: Keep Pushing Forward. You may not notice the change in a day, week, month, or year. But trust me, it WILL happen. If nobody else notices, forget them! Learn to start being your own cheerleader.   Need help with that?  Consider joining my Facebook Group: The Advocacy Garden by clicking here.  If you have to be sassy about it in your thought  self-talk, then do that! Set realistic goals for yourself, and try not compare yourself to others.
Now  I know all of this is easier said this done, trust me I know. I still struggle with plenty daily.  Some days are good and others are not. But I refuse to give up on my journey to happiness. God knows I have better within me. So it is up to me to keep telling myself that I CAN and WILL continue to keep pushing forward daily.  I challenge you today to keep pushing forward.
So do me a favor.  If you can relate to the blog post or know someone who needs a little motivation, share these words with them.  Leave me a comment and let me know you read my message.  And don’t forget to subscribe for messages of encouragement. Let’s push forward together!

Remix That Hair Product!

You just found out the hair product you spent your hard earned money on doesn’t work for you.  What do you do now?  Well let me tell you.  You remix that hair product!

If you currently have natural hair or are in your transitioning stages  you will come across hair products that just don’t work for you.  You know, that one particular hair product that claims to help with detangling, but  instead  leave your hair knotted.

Don't Do it!
Don’t Do It! Put Down The Purse

There is always a  hair product all over social media  claiming  to  be just what you need to feed moisture into your thirsty curls, coils, and kinks.  Instead when use it the product feels like it just striped the rest of the precious moisture you were trying to hold on to! Leaving your hair feeling  dry as a bone. Don’t stress, you are just going to have to remix that hair product!

What Not To Do

First off, it’s a good idea to get in the habit of turning that bottle or jar around and reading the ingredients included in the hair product.  Sometimes we get so star-eyed about getting the latest in hair product hype, that we shovel out our coins blindly.  Then later, we realize we would’ve been better off throwing the money to the birds.  Does that sound crazy?   Well it is!

Just because the lady on that commercial, Instagram, or YouTube video said it works for her, and shows you that it works for her,

Remix That Hair Product
Random Hair Product

doesn’t mean it’s going to work for you darling.

Thanks to Google and wonderful blogs (like mine) there is a thing called research.  We have to be willing to put down the wallet long enough to read information  that is available right at our finger tips.  Many hair product lines are now  including the ingredients of their products on their websites.  So why not take that information and run it through Google first. Being an informed consumer is better then being an impulsive one….well at least I think so!

Spell It Out For Me Please

When you see ingredients like:  Sulfates – per hairstylist Tony Chavez. “They tend to dry out the skin, as well as the hair follicle.”  This excerpt is from the Essence.com article ‘How Exactly Are Sulfates Bad for Your Hair?’

or

When you see the popular ingredient: Dimethicone aka Silicone– Take note that per Shai Amiel “Silicone is really bad for curly hair because most curly hair is on the dry side. Silicones can slide off straight hair more than they can on curly hair. The silicone buildup will get stuck on the curls, weighing the hair down and causing more damage in the long run.”  as quoted on  Coveteur.com In the article The Truth About Silicone-Based Hair Products

So What Do I Do With The Hair Products I Already Purchased?

This is what you do. Remix that hair product!  Here’s how: Simply add moisturizing oils  and/or other ingredients to the hair products that don’t  moisturize your hair the way you want.

Remix That Hair Product
Moisturizing Oils & Other Ingredients

Anyway give it a try.  Here at OlenaRosanne we are always mixing up something.  Don’t forget to check out previous blog posts for other ideas and DIY hair recipes.

I hope I gave you something to think about.  It’s a great idea to think and do research before you buy.  But if you’re like me, no ones perfect.  Don’t get upset. There is a solution. Just remix that hair product Roses.  Talk to you later.

 

Darling You’re Already A Rose

Valentine’s Day is almost here. Are you going to be the one sitting around waiting for roses to be delivered to your door or desk?  I’m going to need you to stop looking and wishing.  Darling, you’re already a rose!

Darling You're Already a Rose!
Darling You’re Already a Rose!

So yes, it’s nice to receive roses.  Roses are beautiful flowers that come in a variety of colors and have their own distinctive scent.  There is a high demand for them every Valentines Day.  Even bro from down the block is  selling them out his car or slanging them on the busiest street corner in town! It’s really that serious!

It doesn’t matter if  they are long stemmed or short, we  want roses because they are the supposed international sign of love.    We go as far as hanging them upside-down to dry.  Place them in-between book pages. Or even frame them as if this will prove we are loved.  It’s the truth that I’m am even guilty of! But baby  guess what you’re already a rose.  So why go through all of that to keep one?

Are You One Of Them?

I used to be that girl who looked on in awe as roses were delivered to the a co-worker after co-worker’s desk.  Sitting there looking from the corner of my eye, hoping and wishing the next delivery would be to my desk or doorstep next.  I know I’m not the only one!  Each time the the delivery person walked by, my feelings would turn more and more sour. Then negative self-talk took over.  Am I not worthy of such a gift?  What’s wrong with me?  Did I not leave enough hints? Doesn’t he know roses would make me feel special?  The list of questions in my head grew longer and longer each year.

You Are A Rose
The Roses You Wish For Are Already Within. You're Already A Rose
The Roses You Wish For Are Already Within

Listen, you are already a rose.  Before negative feelings begin to pop up in your head, I am going to need to need you to start working on changing your way of thinking. The roses you wish for are already within.   So try telling yourself this instead:

  • God is love and He placed love in my heart before birth.
  • I am one-of-kind and no one can duplicate this fabulousness.
  • My life is a blessing to me, and those I allow to be in it.
  • I woke up today. It’s God’s way of telling me I still have another day to blossom.
Darling You’re Already A Rose

Now that you know you’re already a rose maybe you won’t get so bent out of shape if you don’t receive roses this Valentine’s day.  Remember that YOU are the rose so hold your head high!

Join Other Roses

I hope you consider subscribing and joining the  other dozens of roses in my Rose Garden.  Don’t forget to give this blog post a like, leave me a comment, and share this across social media.  I want everyone to know their a rose too!

 

Why Washday and Showering Don’t Mix

Have you ever wondered why your skin itches  when shampoo runs from your hair to your body?  Read further, and I will tell you why washday and showering don’t mix.

What do you think of when you hear or see the word washday, wash-day, or #washday?   Most of us immediately think of our hair right?  Right! Or maybe not.

Surprisingly,  there are still folks in the Natural Hair Community who don’t understand the word, hashtag, or just don’t think there should

Twitter Washday Poll
Twitter Washday Poll

be a day put aside for the washing, conditioning, and styling their tresses.  So, before we get into why washday and showering don’t mix,  I need you to

  1.  Wake up sis
  2.  Catch up on the many blog posts I’ve done regarding the importance of washday.

Ok, now that we are all caught up, I need for you to think about about why in the world I would write a blog post on how washday and showering don’t mix.

How many times have you watched a commercial or YouTube video with a particular shampoo being promoted and the woman is in the shower?  It’s all over the TV and social media.  It’s become the norm, but is it healthy>

Now I don’t know about you, but I have sensitive skin.  Most shampoos  for adults are not formulated as body washes. At least none of the ones I’m familiar with.  If you know of any, then let  a sista know.

So why are we allowing the shampoo to run down our bodies?  Sure you can lean forward  or backwards in the shower, but that is not going to completely stop the ingredients of that shampoo,

Why Washday and Showering Don't Mix
Why Washday and Showering Don’t Mix

conditioner, or co-wash from running down your face and body. I’m sorry it’s just not!   So, why do we continually irritate our skin for the sake of killing two birds with one stone?  Sis, it ain’t that serious. I’ll say it, and say it again, showering and washday don’t mix!

Why washday and showering don’t mix
  • Shampoo is meant for your head, particularly your scalp.
  • Shampoo  will strip your body of its natural oils
  • Chemical allergies are real, and they don’t feel good.
  • The skin on your scalp is different then your face and body
  • Irritated, burning, or dry skin is not happy skin.

So, if the above reason’s have not convinced you washday and showering don’t mix, at least I can say I tried.  I am strong on self-care and am important part of taking care of yourself, is taking care of the body you were given!

How do you wash your hair?
How do you wash your hair?

As we age our skin ages, holding on to the beloved moisture we cherish so much becomes more difficult.  So why make the situation worse by allowing products that don’t belong on our skin, on it.

Why not do what I suggested in  my recent blog post titled, Cold Rinse in the Winter?  Why not just shower your hair when you are OUT of the shower.  Trust me is saves the skin on your body.  Also make those cold rinses on your hair way easier.